Knowing why from one day to the next your girlfriend or wife started behaving strangely, even to the point of hating you, is fundamental if you want to take a chance to win her back.
Many men want to know “now” the techniques or phrases to be able to win back their ex-girlfriends or wives, and what is really important is that they first UNDERSTAND what happened and what is the root of the crisis in the relationship.
Only in this way can things be sorted out so that the future of the relationship is healthy and built on solid foundations.
Some men who manage to get their wives back using the techniques I explain in this Blog tell me a few weeks after getting back together that the relationship has fallen into crisis again and that “this time it’s for good”.
Well, that happens precisely because they did not dedicate themselves to see in the first moment WHY their girlfriends or wives began to feel this rejection for them.
Why does my ex girlfriend or wife hate me, what can I do to change her mind?
why your ex hates you
The real reason why your ex-partner didn’t RESPECT you enough to stay with you (no matter how much she may have loved you at one time or even still have feelings for you) is something I call “the security complex”.
You see, women to REALLY fall in love with a man and want to be with him for the rest of their lives need to feel that the man is Dominant, in charge of the situation and will keep her (and her children) cared for and safe, no matter what happens.
Write down these 2 concepts: Dominant and Security.
That’s how it was in the caveman, that’s how it is in the 21st century.
1) It’s one of the reasons why, for example, women get excited when they see a man physically fight for them.
2) It’s also one of the reasons why women are often attracted to the “bad boy” rather than the “nice guy” who will do whatever they say without imposing his opinion.
3) And finally, it’s one of the reasons why your girlfriend or wife got bored of the relationship you had together, when she saw you sitting on your couch playing in front of the TV, partying with your friends and doing all the little things that messed with your ex’s brain and convinced her that you weren’t the man she wanted to spend the rest of her life with.
(And the most anecdotal part of this is that your ex-girlfriend or wife probably did NOT know this was going on in her brain, because it happens unconsciously, so maybe she made up other reasons as to why you couldn’t be together, is that it?)
So, the question is…
How do I show her that I am a man she deserves? How do I make my ex not hate me?
The first thing I will tell you is that this is NOT done by hiding in your room and crying about the break up of your relationship.
Nor is it achieved by sending him long e-mails with apology texts.
You get it only one way -> By being untouchable.
Let me explain: if you really want your ex to come crawling back into your arms and feel that level of attraction towards you that she felt when you started the relationship, you have to make her see that you are NOT upset about the relationship ending.
You have to make him/her see that you are “over him/her” (even if inside you are nowhere near over him/her…).
You have to plant a seed in her mind that makes her believe that she MADE A MISTAKE by ending the relationship, and that when you get back together you will be the man she expects you to be.
More on this in the book Getting Back Together with Her.
However some quick tips to get this “seed planted” are simple:
Don’t ask her where she wants to go for lunch… tell her where you will take her.
Don’t apologise for everything, let her know that you are passionate and sometimes “over the top”.
When you talk, others listen.
Smile and laugh only when there is a time to smile, be serious when there is a time to be serious.
Work on your body language, stand up straight, take your hands out of your pockets, avoid crossing your arms, when you walk always look at the horizon and keep your chin down.
Realise that you are more attractive than you think you are, you just need to believe it and feel it.
But don’t get me wrong, don’t be a jerk, treat her nice and gentle, but you are in charge of the situation.
To continue learning techniques like these I recommend you read the book “Back to Her”.
It is an e-book in which I explain step by step everything you need to do and stop doing to get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
If you don’t know exactly what to say to her or how to behave to show her that you are a new man and that you are not the man she ended up “hating”, this book is for you.