Relationships change our lives, our perspectives, and fill us with energy, especially when they are just beginning.
But as time goes by, things change….
And people, both men and women, start to fall into a routine where there is no more surprise or mystery, and both people become “predictable” in their communication.
Big mistake!
Friend, don’t fall victim to bad communication habits, because they can hurt you a lot, either with your current partner or with your ex-girlfriend or wife.
To help you, in this article I share with you these 7 common mistakes that can ruin your relationship or your chances of getting your relationship back.
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1) Failing to write her name when you text her
There are probably things you did when you first started your relationship with her that made her fall in love with you, maybe the way you held her hand, or how you greeted her with a kiss on the cheek, or even how you surprised her with something special.
But I bet you that at this stage every text message you sent her, or most of them, started with her name, am I right?
There is a certain “magic” in the sound of a person’s name that makes you special. Words like “babe”, “darling”, “cute”, can’t compete with simply SAYING HER NAME.
If you want to push her further away from you, replace a “hello” with her “name”. If you want her to start being interested in you, always start with her name, it gives you strength and personality.
2) Only text her when it’s about you.
If you want her to replace you or stop being interested in you, fill your text messages with your problems, thoughts, feelings and insecurities, and ignore what she has to say to you.
Believe it or not, many men make this huge mistake.
And while some women are very patient and only have to back off a little when this happens, eventually they always end up getting bored with the man thinking he is “the centre of attention” and walk away from the relationship.
So be careful when texting her.
Make sure she has space to tell you about her life, and you focus, even if you’re having a lot of trouble, on talking to her about something nice and feel-good, and only occasionally talk to her about more difficult topics.
The most important thing is to calibrate.
100% positive messages are not good, just as 100% messages full of problems and insecurities are clearly not good.
3) Not answering the questions she asks you
It is important, if you want to keep the interest of that woman you like so much, or if you want to recover the relationship with your ex-girlfriend or wife, that you respect her and answer what she asks you, as simple as that.
If you don’t answer her she will quickly understand that she doesn’t care about you and will walk away.
4) Make her feel insecure.
Dude, remember this: a man who makes a woman feel secure and confident will always be appreciated and the woman will want to be with him.
Acts that may be making her feel insecure are: not answering most of her text messages, texting other women in front of her, or hiding your mobile phone in front of her so she won’t check it.
Don’t make her feel bad!
5) Texting her when you’re angry
We all know that the moment we are angry and with pent-up rage our text messages won’t be the best and we will REGRET them.
So why do we keep making this mistake?
Simply because it is easier for a human being to vent anger in something like a text message than to face the problem from another angle.
The best thing to do is to wait until you calm down, try to distract yourself by listening to music or watching your favourite TV show (comedy series help a lot to diminish anger quickly), and then let her know how you feel.
Communication based on calm and harmony is communication that keeps relationships alive.
6) Never give her a compliment when she struggles with something.
There are men who don’t notice the details that women do and never say a compliment or a nice phrase to them.
This is a classic mistake that gradually makes women lose interest in him.
There is nothing like feeling appreciated for what you do.
It affirms relationships and sends the signal that you are really interested in investing in the relationship.
So the next time she does something for you, no matter how small, send her a text message telling her how much you appreciate it and thank her.
7) Only texting her sexually.
Whether you are getting to know a woman or trying to recover a relationship, sending only sexual or provocative text messages can be your worst enemy.
Even worse is when a woman sends a tender and loving text message and the man misunderstands this and responds with a sexually provocative face or message.
The woman will immediately realise what your intentions are and above all, what is most important to you, and you will quickly lose value.
Texting can be VERY helpful in improving your connection with her and growing the relationship, but it can also quickly destroy all your chances with her.
My advice is to text her with concern for your real intention behind the message, trying to make her feel good, listening to her first and then talking about yourself.
Don’t send messages “just for the sake of sending”, make your text messages long for her and make them have value.
This is the only way to make her think highly of you and keep her interested.