The first thing I have to clarify in this article is that there are no miracle phrases that will make you get your ex girlfriend or wife back “overnight”.
There are phrases that can help you win back your ex, make her interested in you again and rekindle the “spark” that the relationship had in the beginning.
The mistake that many men make when they are trying to win back a relationship is to think that there is a “magic” technique or some perfect phrase that will make them win back the love of their ex-partner, when this is not the case, what a man who wants to win back a relationship should really worry about is DOING THINGS RIGHT and having patience.
So, before we get into the section on phrases to get a relationship back, it is important that you know what this “doing things right” means, because it will do you NO good to know what words to say to your ex-girlfriend or wife if you are behaving wrongly on the other hand.
What you need to be clear about in order to get your ex girlfriend or wife back:
Take a step back.
Ending the relationship means only one thing for now: your ex is demanding time and space, and your obligation as a man and as a person who loves and respects her is to give it to her.
This may be difficult to understand at first, especially for men who have been in a relationship for many years or for those who have children and cannot stop seeing their partners, but it is simply a reality that you have to accept if you want to have a chance of getting your relationship back.
What if you didn’t give your ex this time and space after the relationship ended?
There is still time to do so, although the ideal would have been for her to see that you accepted the end of the relationship from the beginning, but don’t worry if you made this mistake.
It is natural for this to happen to you, as a man who is dumped by his wife tends to fall into a deep sadness followed by denial of the situation.
This he does, in most cases:
Phone her to ask for explanations.
Promise her that he will change.
Begging her to give you another chance.
Sending her text messages or chat messages.
Spying on her at school or work.
Obsessing about your ex-partner.
If you have gone through or are going through all this, don’t worry, it is absolutely normal, the important thing is that you realise that all these behaviours are WRONG and that you must stop behaving like this if you want to get your wife back.
Why do I have to stay away from my ex? Won’t this be harmful?
Many men are afraid of giving their ex-girlfriend or wife time and space after the relationship has ended, because they think it will hurt their chances of getting the relationship back.
Such men simply need to ask themselves the following question:
“do I have a better chance of getting my ex back by burdening her all the time or by giving her space and hoping that time will heal the wounds?”, I think the answer is clear.
Walking away from your ex-wife and giving her the space she is demanding will benefit you because you will CONFUSE her.
She is expecting you to behave the way most men who have been dumped by their wives behave, but you will not give her that benefit.
After the break up she is the one left in the “power” situation in the relationship, this because SHE made the decision to end the relationship, not you, all this makes her believe that:
You are thinking about her all day long.
You are suffering for her.
You’re looking at pictures of when you were together and you’re mourning her excessively.
And I’m not saying that your ex “likes” to think that you are experiencing all this, she just assumes that you are.
By showing her that you are NOT going through it and that you are absolutely fine, you will be DISPATCHING her and confusing the hell out of her, to the point that she will question whether breaking up with you was the right thing to do or not.
That’s why my advice is not to call her, don’t try to reach her, avoid thinking about her (distracting yourself with some activity is the best for this, practice a hobby, go out with friends, start practicing a sport, keep your mind busy and don’t be locked up in your house).
Stay away from her Facebook profile, Instagram, Twitter, in short, try not to have any contact with her for at least 2 to 3 full weeks.
But you have to commit to this, otherwise she will confirm her decision to end the relationship and it will be more difficult for you to get back in touch with her.
Your main goals in disconnecting from your ex are:
1) Generate curiosity in her.
2) Not to give her a taste for it.
3) Demonstrate that the end of the relationship did not affect you the way she thinks it did.
4) Improve your mental health and self-esteem.
5) Improve your appearance (style, haircut, way of expressing yourself, attitude, verbal and body language).
6) Distract yourself, go out with friends, even meet other women.
7) Prepare yourself well for the reunion with your ex-girlfriend or wife.
In my book “Back to Her” this whole strategy is explained in detail so that you know how to apply it correctly step by step, but you already know the principles.
Now let’s go to the phrases or words that you can use when you meet your ex girlfriend or wife again, so that she perceives in you a new man, a man who is happy with his current situation and who “doesn’t need her” to be fulfilled.
Recommended phrases or words to get back your ex girlfriend or wife
“Hello [your ex’s name], how are you? I hope everything is going well…” (wait until she asks you how you are doing, don’t talk about yourself too much if she doesn’t ask you).
“I’m doing great, many projects I had in mind have come to fruition and I’m very happy, it would be fun to tell you more details and tell me about you, let’s get together some day this week, do you think? I could do Wednesday and Friday” (with this you make it clear that you only have those 2 days free and it is a casual invitation, with no commitments).
If she refuses this invitation, tell her that it is a casual meeting of friends, that there are no commitments, although she should be able to tell by your relaxed and relaxed tone of voice.
If this date does take place you should make sure it lasts no more than 20-25 minutes, it should be in a coffee shop “on the run” because you “are busy and have things to do”, this will leave her “wanting more” and even more confused and interested in why you are having such an active life.
Tips for this date:
- Listen to her more, talk less.
- Don’t talk about anything negative, on any topic. Your goal is for her to start relating you to positive emotions, not negative ones.
- Don’t apologise for anything in the relationship, you are talking to a friend, not “your ex”.
- Look her in the eye when she is talking to you, let her know that you are listening, that you are paying attention, but don’t intimidate her with your gaze.
- Try to be relaxed and relaxed, don’t force anything, behave as if you really know you’re not going to get back together and you’re fine with that.
More sentence ideas:
“At the end of the month I’m going on a trip with friends from university (or workplace), I’m very excited, I’ve always wanted to go there (I gave a very interesting place), I would have liked to go with you but well, I couldn’t… haha”.
(If you are asked more about your life or your close circle you can say something like the following)
“I was talking to a friend the other day and got into an argument, I can’t believe I support (say something you and your ex support and have in common), she’s crazy, I almost made her change her mind though, seems like only we thought like that haha”.
“I like that we got together and shared how our lives are going, it’s good to hear from you.”
“Do you remember when…?” (tell her an anecdote you had together that brings back happy and funny memories, your aim is for her to subtly remember the relationship you had as a positive experience and wonder why it has ended).
“(tell her that you are doing something to change an attitude that bothered her, for example, if you were antisocial and didn’t like socialising with people, tell her that this has now changed, or if you had alcohol problems, tell her that you are changing this because you realised that it was bad for you, but always make it clear that you are doing it for you, not for anyone else, all in a subtle and casual tone).
“(ask her about something she would have really liked to do, a project she had in mind or something that really motivated her.
Women love to talk about what they are passionate about and if you know how to listen to her and give her advice, so much the better).
“Look, the son of was born, they don’t know what name to give him… I suggested “DiunNombre”, but I don’t know, can you think of one? haha…”.
(This technique is very effective in generating positive emotions in your ex.
Show her a picture of a baby from your mobile phone, and explain that it is the child of an acquaintance of yours, and tell her that you went to see him and gave him baby toys, with this your ex will feel powerful emotions that will awaken an interest in you.
They have a maternal instinct that is always present on a subconscious level).
(These phrases for the end of the meeting) “You know, after everything that happened with us, I think everything happens for a reason. I think what we had had more good times than bad and I like to keep the good times, don’t you think?”
“You’ll always be the girl I’ve liked the most and that won’t change, I hope I’ll always be able to keep hearing from you.”
“Well it looks like I have to go… they are waiting for me, it was great to get together, I loved seeing you, it should be repeated, we are talking and I hope you are doing great”.
All these phrases serve 2 functions: they show you as a man who is calm and happy with his life, and they provoke positive emotions in your ex, who will associate you with those emotions and want more and more.
You are probably asking yourself: I mean, basically, do I have to lie during the whole date, and the answer is yes.
But I can also answer you with another question, why lie and not start living exactly as you will pretend you are living?
In seduction there is a basic principle that is very true and tremendously effective:
You must Appear, Appear and Appear, even BE.
You will act so much like a calm, relaxed and relaxed man that you will end up feeling that way and say goodbye to the obsessive man who used to burden his ex-girlfriend or wife.
Human psychology works that way, believe it or not.
And female psychology in particular what it has told us over the years is that women want to be with a man who gives them positive emotions and with a man who is successful, and this doesn’t mean having a lot of money, but it does mean:
-Love what you do-.